In Part 4 we talk about how children of different ages adapt to conflict. Let’s Talk About Conflict 是一個由七部分組成的影片系列,每部分持續 5 至 10 分鐘,提供支持性學習內容和要點。
Children are Sensitive to Conflict
While children of all ages are sensitive to parental conflict, they adapt in different ways. Severe parental conflict may lead to a range of behavioural, emotional, academic, health, and social problems in your child.
Children Respond and Adapt in Different Ways
A plant can sense and cope with harsh conditions such as drought by slowing or stopping growth, redirecting energy resources to protect itself from stress-related damage. Similarly, your child may try to control their experience of parental conflict in various ways to regain a sense of emotional security, which can be a drain on their developmental energy to grow.
Prenatal: Mothers who are stressed by conflict or the experience of violence during pregnancy can over-produce the stress hormone, cortisol, which can lead to long-lasting changes in their unborn child’s brain.
0–4 years: Parent conflict is particularly tough for children, as they are not born with any ability to control, or escape, the stress they feel. To cope, they may become watchful and jumpy, or very withdrawn.
5–12 years: Children typically may want to help parents in conflict by trying to distract them by misbehaving or stepping in.
13–17 years: Teenagers are more likely to try to avoid the conflict, often by hiding in their rooms, or being at other friend’s houses.
Children who witness severe and ongoing parental conflict may display:
- ‘Acting out’ (disruptive, impulsive, angry, or hyperactive behaviours)
- ‘Holding in’ (depression, anxiety, and withdrawal)
- Academic problems (learning, poor school grades)
- Health problems (digestive problems, fatigue, reduced physical growth, headaches, abdominal pains, difficulty sleeping)
- Social and relationship problems (such as difficulty making and keeping friends)
反思
Consider whether and how your conflict might be related to your child’s behaviours. Do they happen on a regular basis? Are they distressing to your child and those around them? Do they persist over a period of time (a month or longer) or across situations (at home and at child care/school)? If so, it might be time to get support or advice.
觀看完整系列
該系列專為父母使用而設計,無論他們是同居還是分居。這是支持他們減少衝突對孩子的情緒和社交發展的影響的實用工具。
它基於 20 多年的科學研究和實踐證據,提供了專家直接、切中要害的想法和建議。該劇還重點講述了父母因家庭衝突而面臨現實生活挑戰的真實經歷。為了探討父母關係如何影響孩子,完整系列包括:
- 簡介:讓我們來談談衝突
- 第 1 部分:什麼是“父母衝突”,我們為什麼要談論它?
- 第二部分:你父母不知道的事情
- 第三部分:父母衝突如何影響孩子的發展?
- 第四部分:孩子如何適應父母衝突?
- 第五部分:父母如何處理父母衝突?
- 第六部分:父母如何幫助修復父母衝突造成的傷害?
請注意,Relationships Australia SA 不提供這些影片的證書或完成驗證。