In Part 5 we talk about how parents can help manage conflict. Let’s Talk About Conflict 是一個由七部分組成的影片系列，每部分持續 5 至 10 分鐘，提供支持性學習內容和要點。
Communication is Key
Parents who do the best by their children do not just act out their conflict with each other. They learn to look through a developmental lens, think, and talk, about the good, the bad, and the ugly of what is happening in their family.
You Can Champion Your Child’s Emotional Growth
You can become a better gardener of your child’s emotional growth.
“I looked at things from my child’s point of view”
Observe the conflict through your child’s eyes. This will help you to consider how the situation might be affecting your child’s development, and motivate you to respond more constructively.
“I started to see my partner as human, and not some kind of monster sent to destroy me.”
Conflict with your partner can be unsettling, and they may feel like a perpetual drain on you, or even like an enemy. Provided their behavior is essentially safe, then seeing the other parent as a real person in your child’s life – who they love, need, and depend on – will help you to gain some perspective.
“I thought like a parent, and not like an ex-partner. I kept my parenting mind on the job, not my litigating mind.”
Prioritise your child above your anger. Every time you are tempted to engage in conflict, step out of the situation, take stock of what is going on, and reengage in a way that is constructive to your child.
“I stopped blaming.”
Define the problems that you have with the other parent in terms of differences between you, rather than defects. A focus on defectiveness leads to blame and avoiding responsibility, and constructive interactions are not likely to result.
“I stopped reacting.”
Learn to control your impulses, so that you do not say or do anything that you will regret or wish you had done better.
“I repaired what could be repaired, and stepped up to the idea of preventing any more damage.”
反思
Consider how you behave when you are with your child. Are you soundly in the role of parent? Reflect for a moment on the experience of other parents (such as those above). Are there ways you can be more fully focused on protecting and nourishing your child to thrive.
觀看完整系列
該系列專為父母使用而設計，無論他們是同居還是分居。這是支持他們減少衝突對孩子的情緒和社交發展的影響的實用工具。
它基於 20 多年的科學研究和實踐證據，提供了專家直接、切中要害的想法和建議。該劇還重點講述了父母因家庭衝突而面臨現實生活挑戰的真實經歷。為了探討父母關係如何影響孩子，完整系列包括：
- 簡介：讓我們來談談衝突
- 第 1 部分：什麼是“父母衝突”，我們為什麼要談論它？
- 第二部分：你父母不知道的事情
- 第三部分：父母衝突如何影響孩子的發展？
- 第四部分：孩子如何適應父母衝突？
- 第五部分：父母如何處理父母衝突？
- 第六部分：父母如何幫助修復父母衝突造成的傷害？
請注意，Relationships Australia SA 不提供這些影片的證書或完成驗證。
致謝
《讓我們談談衝突》© 由迪肯大學社會和早期情感發展中心 (SEED) 的 Jennifer E. McIntosh 和 Craig Olsson 撰寫。它是由澳大利亞關係協會製作。
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