For each one of us, respect looks and feels different. Despite this, we know when things aren’t right. Jenni from Respect Me, writes “for a relationship to be respectful both partners need to be equal, feel safe, valued and accepted for who they are.” This is not always easy and for most couples, creating a respectful relationship takes effort and is an ongoing commitment.
John Gottman from the Gottman Institute refers to the following set of behaviours as the Four Horseman; criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling. His research shows these behaviours are an indicator that a relationship may be in need of support and that one or both parties may feel disrespected in some way. It’s one thing to admit that things are not going well but taking action to change these behaviours takes courage. For many couples, this is the breaking point.
The good news is that relationship skills can be learned, just like any other skill. At Relationships Australian SA, we have been helping couples and individuals with relationship and interpersonal skills for over 60 years. Our counsellors are highly experienced and equipped to work with individuals, couples and families. If you would like more information or to make an appointment for relationship counselling please call 1300 364 277 or 1800 182 325 (country callers).